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by Nerien » Tue Jan 21, 2014 11:43 am
It is their fault--a 5 year old is plenty old enough to know better. A 3 year old is old enough to behave as told. If she holds her breathe until she turns blue, when she passes out she will breathe again and come to. In your house, they need to respect your rules. Period. Let them cry all day--"No, I am not mean, I am the adult and these are my rules. What you are doing to my animals is mean, and I will not allow you to be mean to them. You can cry all day about it if you want, the rules will not change. So it's your choice, cry all day and be unhappy, or choose to do something else that is allowed and will make you happier. Your choice." And then, horrid as they get about it, stick to your guns, it WILL work when they see that you are not giving in.
I cured my kids of whining in ONE DAY. They started whining, (which they learned from Dad, dang him), and in a stroke of pure genius, I told them, "If you whine, the answer is No. Even if I was going to say yes, if you whine, the answer is No. Period." Within days, if one even started to sound a touch whiny, the other would, in a panic, say "don't whine, don't whine, or she will say no!"
So instead, they'd plan out their reasoning and arguments ahead of time, then come out together, side by side, and hit me with their proposal and all the pros and cons and how the pros outweighed the cons, so I should agree. It was so hard not to laugh at them when I saw 'the approach' coming.